When you can respond to conflict by trying to put yourself in the other person’s position and understand the other person’s point of view, you will have many insights.

An American farmwoman who moved from Florida to become part of a family farm in the cornfields of Iowa called me one day to say, “Elaine, I am tired of all the ranting on social media about problems with in-laws. Something needs to shift, and we need to see solutions.”

Several years ago, after my aunt’s funeral, we were in the forest where she was buried. We were ambling along the dirt road, and one of the little girls flew past me, her golden hair tickling the wind. She must have been about four years old dressed up in her Sunday best.